When some one gives herself (himself) completely to someone else the response evoked in the recipient is not necessarily a 'feel good'.
Your friend (selflessly) do things for you. She (he) serves you literally hand and foot. Whatever you may wish for even before you verbalize it she provides.
Be it an article of food, a comforting act, a thought. Be it a physical, emotional, intellectual need you might have, wish for, even think vaguely about; your friend in almost an inhuman manner, anticipates & provides.
NORMAL human beings in the first place don't or are not able/inclined to do that.
NORMAL human beings think of self first, less often of others thus their inability, disinclination to do that.
Most human beings are - NORMAL.
No normal person would act, or be inclined to behave that way. She would cause uncertainty & doubt, in you if she behaves thus.
What is the expected gain?
Human relationships not unlike trade, profits & losses almost always are ingrained in human interactions.
You begin to find these acts of devoted friendliness, (servitude) unsettling, & difficult to accept. You do not expect to get a free ride, a free meal, anything at all free. You are a typical human.
Unless these acts clearly are for 'rewards', 'benefits', 'gains' or some yet unknown "pluses", & unless payments for these 'devotions' 'servitude' 'volunteerism' are made & paid well, her purpose would be elusive to one's understanding, hard to accept & properly responded to.
In fact she would evoke doubts, suspicions, fear, rejection even animosity if she does them for no apparent conceivable human intent.
Nobody in the world would do that; completely, selflessly, with no apparent motives, obscure or otherwise. With no indication for gain or self enrichment in one or more ways.
Does your parents ? (You would prefer they do, for the reasons you think are inherently noble)
Your spouse (male, female or other)? You are sure, for reasons atypical of humans?
Your live-in companion? Ditto as above? Your friends with benefits? Your pastor, priests, spiritual gurus, Popes,?
Your crew ? The PM, Congress? Members of political parties? Your obsessed with Rock Star?
In fact - Does anyone at all (for selfless reason) ?
If they did were these acts not in some ways 'paid' for by you.
If not paid for, were they selfless & atypical, unpolluted, untainted by narrow human considerations?
That we regard acts like these as done with anticipation of rewards, reaffirms the HUMAN in us.
Some call that inclination to question plain pure 'good' - paranoia, suspicious minds, inability to be gracefully accepting, the XXXXXXX of a human.
Parents, siblings, friends, others, should they act thus, do so from feelings of responsibility, of love, charity, kindness, tenderness, friendship.
Some do such sacrificial acts for Love of the ONE.
Should one whom we never knew from Adam, comes along and allows us to completely consume ('share' - a word too abused to correctly convey the meaning) his entire being, would one find that easy to doubt, mistrust, suspect, fear and reject?
Should one perceive such acts; especially from one we never knew from Adam, were done for typical human intentions - for GAIN; by such thoughts one would be impeded from knowing Peace.
If one acts or behaves based on such premise - for personal gain, in any conceivable form; one would not only be impeded but would not at all easily find Peace.
Thus when a sacrificial act atypical of humans, is performed, by one unrelated in any way, with absolute disregard for gain of any sort or other, He is always viewed with cautious (even criminal) suspicion.
Ultimately He will be hung - for attempting to be an atypical 'good' human person!
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